Constantly feeling angry, upset and insecure

This must be very difficult living like this.. You need to seek professional help for these isses as soon as possible. Your GP can refer you to a counsellor/psychologist.
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Feelings are like indicator lights on a car dashboard. They tell us when things are going right for us, and they also tell us when things are going wrong for us! It's important we don't ignore them because, if we do, whatever is wrong might get worse. It's worth looking into our feelings and getting help with the right response to them.

At the same time, we don't necessarily need to let our feelings push us around. Finding ways to manage feelings is important too. You can get help from a professional counsellor or therapist, like an accredited mental health social worker. Your GP should be able to refer you to a professional and the cost will be partly who fully refunded by Medicare. Alternatively there is some good information here on the Reach Out website:

http://au.reachout.com/Tough-Times/Somethings-not-right

Good luck and make sure you follow up Brenda's suggestion to get some help. It's okay to ask for support!

It sounds like you have many reasons to be feeling a whole range of difficult emotions at the moment, and that you are (rightly) upset that others have responded in a way that implies that you are being unreasonable. As others have suggested, counselling may be an important resource for you, where you can have a space and support to explore what is going on for you, and to develop strategies for moving forward to a life where you can feel happier. 

Hi there, 

I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing a wide range of emotions and perhaps more often than you would like. I could imagine how overwhelming it could be at times when we feel as though we are not managing our emotions the way we would like. Also, when people question and doubt or even minimise our concerns, of course that doesn't help, and it can hurt your feelings too. The fact that you have been able to share your concerns is a great start - as well as you trying to make helpful changes i.e. exercising and eating well. 

Perhaps it could be helpful to call into a counselling helpline just to see how you feel about speaking to a counsellor. For example, you could call into Headspace, and try sharing what you're comfortable with to the counsellor who answers, and see what comes about in your conversation with them. From there, you might have a better idea of what you would like support with, and how to access such services locally. 

All the best, Catherine. 

There is so much going on, no wonder you are not OK. I would try to stay in contact often with close family and friends, even if it has to be online. Tell them what's going on for you if you feel like they will be supportive instead of judging...we all go through seasons like this in our lives and we all need that support. Sometimes even just that one supportive friend can make all the difference, even when everyone else weren't helpful when we needed help. I would definitely consider therapy (it sounds like there's some trauma there and perhaps more than just Depression? Could be wrong...). If there is Trauma there, which by the sounds of your current relationship sounds like it, I would suggest seeing a therapist trained in trauma therapy, such as EMDR or Brainspotting techniques. Check on their websites what they are trained in and what they specialize in. Your GP or Psychiatrist can talk to you about medication options if you feel you want to explore that route too, but in my experience this is not a permanent solution...it does help you cope better with what's going on currently, but does not solve the cause of you feeling this way, so I would still definitely consider therapy. I would also suggest joining facebook or instagram groups with people going through similar things so you can have an outlet and find a community of people who get you and won't judge or invalidate what you're going through and feeling. Focus on what you CAN control and do something about, and just do that. You can't control an unloving partner or so-called friends who are not supportive of you in a situation like this...all you can control is your own decisions about getting help, connecting with the people you CAN rely on, getting therapy, getting checked out by a GP, etc. I hope this helps a bit...

Hi,

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a tumultuous time. I hope it's some small consolation to hear that you're not alone and that's a much more common experience than you might think.

I wonder if you might consider speaking to a psychologist or other mental health professional? What we do is not judge, rather we try and help people make sense of things. There would be some reason/s as to why you're experiencing such a kaleidoscope of emotions.

When you say "However now they aren't mood swings as these emotions are affecting me significantly and everyday is a challenge to feel happy, or even to have positive thoughts." - it makes me wonder if you might be experience depression, which is something you could speak about with your GP or a mental health professional. A diagnosis of depression involves experiencing a number of symptoms, including sadness and/or lack of pleasure, most of the day, nearly every day, for at least two weeks - this is one of the things that separates it from merely being a bad day or a bad week.

I'm also curious of some of your challenges might come under the banner of 'emotional dysregulation', which is when we have a hard time keeping on top of strong emotions. There are therapies and methods that are really effective for helping people build skills to manage their challenging feelings, such as Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT). This can be available privately, online (through telehealth), though some areas also have government funded DBT groups available.

You mention financial stress as a challenge, which can - sadly - make it harder to access mental health support. You could speak to a local GP about whether there are any psychologist or mental health professionals that offer concession fees or bulk billing nearby. There's also MindSpot at https://www.mindspot.org.au/, which offers free psychological support through telehealth. It could be working out if it's hard to find something in your local area.

Sigmund Freud was wrong about a lot of things, but he said a human being needs to be able to do two things: Love and Work. You actually mention a lot of challenges - and most people would struggle with unemployment, financial strain, abusive relationships, and relational distance. Referring to the historical figure Freud, that's the two big domains of life that you're having difficulties with. I'm sorry to hear if you haven't felt much understanding from people you've opened up to, but I hope you can find some kindness for yourself and reach out for support that's available.