Firstly, let me say that I am so very sorry that you lost your beautiful little girl.
The previous response really hit the nail on the head though - grief will not automatically be forgotten or dealt with because you fall pregnant and have another baby. If you've had some grief counselling - and I really hope that you have, and encourage you to if you have not - then you will probably know that grief moves through various stages of anger, sadness/depression, bargaining, denial…. and acceptance. How long people take to move through those stages varies for everyone ….. and it does take time.
It's a time to be gentle on yourself…. it's normal and perfectly natural to feel sad or angry that you lost your baby - people's lives go on around you and sometimes I can imagine that you wonder how they can just act as if nothing happened when for you and your partner, life probably felt like it stood still for awhile. This will change….over time. Be gentle to yourselves and each other. And know that when you feel ready to have another baby…. that you are never replacing Amy and that she will be a very special person that you were blessed to have in your life - albeit for such a brief moment in time.
I do encourage you to get some counselling along the way ….. pregnancy may stir up some further issues for you and having an outside support for you and your partner will be helpful. Please contact me if there's anything you'd like to discuss or if I can suggest a counsellor in your area.
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