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  • Q&A with Australian Health Practitioners

    Why am I finding it hard to motivate myself?

    I am grabbing at any hobby, addiction to make myself happy.

    I just want to feel happy.

    I am struggling with back and neck pain too and using this to make excuses in not doing anything.

    I would appreciate your suggestions. I have just spoken with a hypnotherapist, do you think this would be beneficial to me?
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    I am a Melbourne Relationship Counsellor and Family Lawyer who is skilful in helping people get out of the pain of relationship distress and create … View Profile

    Hypnotherapy may help. There are many things that could help you. Speaking to a Counsellor could also help.
    Even our most difficult emotions can help us create the life we want if we use the messages they bring. That's where counselling can help you to understand yourself better.
    You just want to feel happy. But you are also struggling with pain. So the grabbing at hobbies isn't helping. You also mention making excuses.Perhaps this is true and it also could be true that you could have some compassion for yourself, a person who has some pain which makes it harder to do things.
    It will help if you work on yourself from the inside, developing emotional awareness, rather than the outside, grabbing at all sorts of externals.
    And you can do both at once. That is you can do things that make you feel good if they are aligned with your values, as well as develop your capacity for emotional intelligence.
    The mind and body are inextricably linked so it could be that looking at both your emotions and well-being together with other areas of difficulty in your life, just might help you with pain and with happiness.
    Maybe you could try keeping a gratitude journal. There are many things that you can do to increase your happiness.
    Good luck.

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    Joseph Fenech

    Counsellor, Psychotherapist

    Counselling: My hope is that through creating the right counselling environment positive change will occur allowing personal transformation and enrichment. My belief is that all … View Profile

    It is great that you are seeking help, back and neck pain are not easy things to deal with. Wanting to feel happy is a basic human need and it is understandable that you also want happiness.

    I was given a book a few years ago and there is a little saying on the front cover, “Happiness is a journey not a destination”. This little quote provides all of us with a reminder that we experience many feelings in our lives of which happiness is only one.

    Accepting the fact that we will not feel happy every moment of the day is the first step toward contentment. Like every feeling that we experience happiness is a state of mind. You might consider meditation to help you settle your mind which inturn will help settle your external world.

    Meditation can also help with pain management as you will soon discover the power of your mind to assist in healing. It seems like you are searching at the moment for perhaps some meaning to your life. Counselling would certainly help in your search for meaning by helping you to grow in awareness.

    Keep searching and you will find happiness remember it's a journey not a destination.

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