Forgiveness and moving on is easier said than done. Often letting go is a process - not a one off - and part of the process of letting go, can be for some people to revisit the hurts with the person who they perceived caused them in the past and let that person (or parent) know what the hurt has meant.
The best way to help someone with this, if you are the parent, is to actively listen - to the content and the feeling in what your adult child is saying. And offer an apology, a simple, direct expression of regret for any harm caused. There is a lot of healing in an apology if it is heartfelt.
Another option might be to ask a counsellor in your area to help you both with a family therapy session - contrary to popular belief, you don't need to be mum dad and 2.5 kids to benefit from family therapy - sometimes it is valid for parent and adult child to be assisted in a facilitated conversation that can begin to heal old wounds.
It's great that you have sought some assistance via this website, that indicates you too are willing to do the hard work required to address the problems in the relationship, that you have heard your adult child when s/he has said they wish to ‘move forward’. There is always hope.
Interestingly, the human mind seems totally programmed to either be in the past or the present, never the now. And fundamentally, as you have said yourself, we can't change the past, or control or predict the future, so the now is the only place where your relationship can begin to heal.
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