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    I hate my life, is it worth my effort getting help?

    I hate my life's. Don't no if it's worth it, sick of not sleeping. Seeing a phyciatrist taking all sorts of pills. Think I will go to mental health unit today . At last straw need help . Only thing keeping me alive is my dad and being in a daze . Living like an ant have job no think inking must go on. Don't know if it's worth the effort help!!!!
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  • Anonymous

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    I used to be  like you,,, not sleeping. I understand how you feel and know this drives you crazy. You are in the right place and there is a big chance you improve. If  you don't mind to write more about yourself and how this problem started, if possible?  

  • Muzzabun

    HealthShare Member

    I've always delt with personal problems by myself. (this is definitely the short version). I had a major break up in 1995. That lady I still grieve over. At the time I had a high pressure job. I think I put pressures on myself to do everything as close to perfect as possible. Was studying at uni for a while then mum broke her hip. (ilive at home with my dad). Mum got worse then eventually 18 months later pass away with bone cancer. I don't like the word trigger its to definite to what's been happening to my brain. People think that mum could be the trigger. I thing it is an accumulation of things . I just wich the sick feeling in my guts would go away. Went to the mental health unit today. They recommended to up my dose of night time pills so I sleep better. Even bought a new bed. Still wake up like an old man on the side of the bed and just sit. They also recommended a oncologist as well and to ring them tomorrow. My dad doesn't know much of this I want to keep him from the worst of it after him losing a wife off 56 years. Also have gambling problem although I still keep up with my bills. Want to be part of life again on some level but anything to far into th future scares the hell out of me. Thanks for replying kind regards John Murray.

  • Muzzabun

    HealthShare Member

    When I went to the mentall Heath clinic the lady there has recommended to get my gp to referr me to a phycologist and see if they can help. Seeing my phyciatrist today. See how things pan out. Thankyou again. I will try to try anything. I know there are soe things in my life I should change or stop or try but my motivation levels won't let me. Regards John

  • Dr Carla Rogers

    Psychologist

    Are you ready to make some changes? I don't have a magic wand, I can't fix all your problems, and when we work together you're … View Profile

    Hi John,
    I'm so sorry to hear about the way you're feeling but there is hope so hang in there ok?
    I think you've taken a hugely positive step by going to see your GP and your psychiatrist.  I don't know what sort of therapy your psychiatrist does, if any, as not all psychiatrists offer ‘talking’ therapy.  But seeing him/her for medication review is a great first step.  Next step, a referral under a Mental Health Care Plan to see a psychologist (where abouts are you located?).  This referral will get you 6 medicare-rebated appointments to see a psychologist with potential for you to receive more if both the psychologist and GP think it is necessary.

    I offer therapy to clients with anxiety all the time - and John, there is hope.  You have had a rough few years by the sounds of it, and while your mum may have been the ‘trigger’ as others are suggesting, it definitely sounds like an accumulation of things over the years - exacerbated by your self-reported perfectionistic behaviours. 

    John, please make sure you follow up with the GP about talking to a psychologist and let us know how you go.  These forums can be a wonderful way to receive support and I congratulate you again on taking the first steps.

    Carla

  • Muzzabun

    HealthShare Member

    Hi carla
    have managrsed to get into my gp tomorrow as well as an appointment with a phycaitrist Thursday. Even if I don't get the referral in time it doesnt matter I have to start somewhere before I explode. I work night shift so it's off to work I go tonight. Tomorrow will be a new day. It's good to let these things out in the open. Ism past feeling embarrassed about my situation. The difficulty is for friends and acquaintances to understand and not just think you are a cop out.
    regards John 

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    Angelina Stein

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    Dear John,

    You have made a huge step by getting help and that must be congratulated! Sometimes we can't get any sense of what, how and why we feel the way you do. The important thing is that you are seeking help from the correct sources. Although it's going to take a lot of strength and effort to make and keep your appointments - just make sure you do - let the GP, Mental Health Team, Phyciatrist and Phycologist figure out what to do - you just need to get yourself there - if you have someone you trust that can take you along to appointments - even better. I speak from personal experience. Back in July last year I had no fight left in me left to live, I felt that everywhere I turned, I didn't belong and that I was wasting my time being alive - this was a very dark time for me - however, the best thing i ever did was to finally seek the help from the right sources - but before I did that - i got so low that I searched, how to commit suicide successfully, on the internet - Up came lots of things - but one caught my eye - it was that no matter how I feel right now - I am worthy to live and that help is there - I can't remember all the words - but that link saved my life - I wish I could thank the person who blogged it - So I want to say to you John - YOU ARE WORTHY OF LIFE and LIFE IS WORTHY OF YOU - YOU ARE IMPORTANT - YOU DO MATTER - WE REALLY DO CARE ABOUT YOU - Getting the meds to help and finding the right ones for you is worth the time - although I did feel like giving up at some points - what really matters is that you work with the help and that the help work with you - I highly recommend the Mental Health Access team - they have follow up phone calls and home visits if needed - they are there all the time for you - you just have to promise to pick up the phone - Once your Phyciatrist gets your meds right (you will sleep better) you will continue to see a Phsycologist and GP - which I highly recommend. They work together WITH YOU to find the therapy that's right for you. I have been seeing my physcologist for 7 months and I feel that I am CONNECTED TO LIFE AGAIN.
    You're not a cop out! Let others think what they think - one day they'll understand - and if not - that doesn't matter - what matters is you John - you deserve to love yourself - you deserve compassion - you deserve help - you matter
    There's so much more I could say …..
    hang in there John
    with love
    Angelina

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    Muzzabun

    HealthShare Member

    Thank you for your positive words. I still feel a little hope from what you have said.
    with love sincerely John. 

  • Angelina Stein

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    You're welcome John. I'll be thinking of you. Hope to hear how you're going.
    you'll be ok, take all the time you need, little steps at a time
    with love
    Angelina :-)

  • Grant McKell

    Psychologist

    Grant McKell is a counselling psychologist working in Sydney's inner west with over ten years' experience. He founded HeadsUp Psychology in August, 2011. Having worked in … View Profile

    John,

    I'd just like to re-iterate what Carla has said to emphasise that it can and does get better. Like Carla, I've worked with a number of clients with anxiety and have seen them start where you are and then, step by step, see improvements in their lives.

    I won't go on too much as I think everyone else here has already given all the advice that I would give. But hang on, go through and see the GP. There is hope.

    Don't forget you can call Lifeline to help you get through those dark moments at any time for free. 13 11 14.

    I'd also be happy to talk with you as well. My contact details are on my website:
    www.headsup-psychology.com.au.

    Good luck, hang in there. One day at a time.

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    John, everybody here (health professsionals and others) have made great suggestions.

    For me the first and by way the hardest step was to accept that that I needed help from mental health professionals.

    You have taken that step too - I think that you should be *very* proud of yourself for doing that.

    Things *can* and *will* get better now you have taken that step :-).

  • Natalie Andrew

    HealthShare Member

    Hello,
    Of course it is worth going on, don't loose faith. I was sick for 7 months with major depression and finally my psychiatrist found a medication that really works for me, things couldn't be better. I was at the end of my teather to and just wanted to give up so I rang mental health and I ended up going into a clinic to get some intense therapy and help. Was the best decision I ever made. You have to keep fighting

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    Muzzabun

    HealthShare Member

    Thank you everyone for your supportive words. I am seeing a phycologist as well now. Only saw him once and he brought out feelings in me I didn't know we're sitting there. 

    Sincerely John murray

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    Angelina Stein

    HealthShare Member

    Well done John. You'll learn a lot about yourself. It's a bit like a rollercoaster at times with highs and deep lows. All the same it's worth it and you'll be a better and stronger person for it. You're in the right hands, you'll be fine.
    All the best John - you deserve it!
    sincerely Angelina

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    Ralph Graham

    Counsellor

    Ralph Graham, Counsellor, Psychotherapist, helping those who are affected by:grief, loss, anxiety, phobias, panic attack.And those who have been traumatised by:crime, assault, sexual abuse and … View Profile

    Apart from encouraging you John and I can see you are on the right track now, you will see there is healing power in patient and skillful listening and there is healing power in the words of the “Angelinas' ” of this world. She has walked the path you are on and has the kindness to step in and pass on love to you straight off the page.
    Pure gold, don't you think?

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