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    My son is being kept away from me by my ex wife

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    My son and I had a fantastic relationship and were very close. My ex-wife in my own son's words "mum is going to take me away from you". Now it has been 6 years and I have not seen or heard of my son, but some psychologists say this is treated with mindfulness. Can someone please help
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    Vivienne Colegrove

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    I have been working in Eltham, Melbourne as a relationship and family counsellor for over twelve years. I draw on current theory and research about … View Profile

    It sounds like you are grieving for the loss of your relationship with your son  - a very painful thing to be going through! I wonder if you have reached out for support to work through your grief re this? Perhaps this is what you have done, and counsellors have offered mindfulness strategies as a way to be with your grief without it consuming you. It's so hard to be in a situation that you may have no or very little control over changing, that you long to be different. Counselling may continue to be a supportive space to help you cope with this. All the very best.

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    Frank Breuer

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    Well, I guess there is a lot to say to the dynamic of your ex-partner has been taking the child away from you. Rejecting access to a parent is in a severe intervention that often is not justified by circumstances (exceptions may apply to some cases). 

    The main help from my perspective is to have a talk to a professional who has a sound understanding of family dynamics and helps you gain that understanding too. That's because accurate awareness helps you digest this difficult situation and find what works best for you. 

    I do think that mindfulness can help in addition, but only in addition to processing your emotions and the way you rightfully think about what happened to you, and your child! 

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