This is a really good question, so, thank-you for asking. I think that it is inevitable that parents may find themselves arguing in front of their children from time to time; however, depending on how contained the argument is, that is another issue. Containment is really important when expressing any kind of disagreement, misunderstanding, and conflict in front of children. What needs to be considered is the appropriateness of the issue being argued. Given that children can be easily influenced and learn by watching what others do, it might be helpful for parents to consider creating boundaries, as to what is appropriate to discuss in front of their children, and what needs to be discussed in private.
If parents are to argue in front of the children unexpectedly, if the argument is constructive and calmly discussed, it may be a good learning observation for the children. However, if it is an argument that cannot be discussed calmly, rationally, and with containment, then perhaps this argument is better left for when the children are not around. Parents are naturally one of their children’s role model/s in terms of learnt behaviours, so, children will look to learn from their parents; positive and negative behaviours.
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