It sounds like you've actually been quite successful in establishing and maintaining relationships with men in the past, and you're perhaps starting to doubt that you're still able to do that because of more recent experiences.
While it can be useful to look at your relationship patterns, and how these may have been influenced by experiences in your own family, it's also possible that you are simply having a hard time meeting the right person (and a person who also thinks you're ‘the one’ - this is not up to you, unfortunately!).
What you can do is make sure that you are actively working on having a good relationship with yourself, and your existing friends and family members. Be gentle and kind to yourself and all the important people in your life. Most importantly, when someone you like chooses not to reciprocate your affections, make sure you don't make this about some defect in yourself.
This may sound like ‘giving up’, but there is a paradox involved here - when we focus on loving ourselves, accepting ourselves (and our limitations - especially what we are and are not able to control) unconditionally, we are at our most attractive (and therefore more likely to attract someone who will be as kind and caring as we are already being towards ourselves and others).
While this is not a recipe that is guaranteed to find you the right guy, it will most certainly create more happiness and a sense that living a fulfilling life is achievable, with or without an intimate relationship.
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