Hello Sue. Thank you for posting your questions and I hope you are doing okay in what would be very difficult circumstances.
Yes, “going through the motions”, “not finding much happiness anymore” is very much a normal (and difficult) part of grieving, whether it's grief that relates to the death of loved ones or grief relating to health constraints. The emotional and physical demands of grief are often so great that the struggle is just to get through the day.
There is little time or energy left over for “happiness”. It would be amazing not to feel depleted or lacking in enthusiasm for events and activities you once enjoyed.
Where these feelings can be a concern is when they are consistent. With grief, there will be difficult days, but typically there can also be good days that help leaven the bad. When the feelings of flatness and disinterest persist over extended periods of time, you may find that seeking out a counsellor (or, if you're lucky, you may already have a very understanding friend) is helpful in providing you the opportunity to speak your thoughts and feelings of grief out loud.
Articulating thoughts and feelings can be very helpful in terms of gaining some level of understanding of experiences that otherwise (trapped in our minds) can feel confusing and even overwhelming.
You asked, “Will this feeling pass?”. Through my involvement with bereaved parents and siblings in Compassionate Friends Support Groups, I can say that overwhelmingly the answer is “Yes”. Although I am not speaking for individuals bereaved of parents, I can say that bereaved parents and siblings typically note that the intensity of the emotional pain (and the accompanying physical exhaustion) does lessen over time.
It sometimes does not happen as quickly as they would like (and that has certainly mirrored my own experience as a bereaved sibling) but it does happen. I think you will find that your interest in life and activities will slowly (but surely) return, and those periods of happiness will get longer again.
And you have made a very positive step in the first place by asking others about the issues that concern you.
Best wishes to you.
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