What is lovely is to read in the above posts and the empathy of the responses.
Whilst myself I have never gone through this event, a family member had two miscarriages before having two lovely children in the years that followed. But like you, she needed to go through the grieving process which is a very personal thing to you alone.
If family did tell you that it is time for you to move on, remember that they did not go through this event - you did. So when they (the family) want you to get on with life, I would imagine it is out of love for wanting to see you happy once more and not meant to be unkind.
Many different traumas can effect a persons life, and each has its own length of time to be able to move on in life depending on the understanding we have of the event or events and how we think about life in general.
How do you recover from a miscarriage? We cannot change the past, we cannot live in the future (only plan for it), and all we can ever do is to live in the 'now'. So what do you want to do? There is no magic wand, but there are caring therapists with the training and expertise that would help you to release the feelings and emotions from this event.
Do you need to release the sadness, tightness in your chest, your throat, the tears you are holding behind your eyes? Are there feelings of anger, guilt and helplessness. Are you ready to do this?
As a trauma and pain management therapist in the past, and I am sure many other therapists on this forum can help you do this through hypnotherapy and/or things like using Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), a simplified version of Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), Gestalt Therapy or Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR) and many other techniques.
Sometimes we need a helping hand and if you feel that need, know that there are people wanting to help you when you are ready.
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