Anger management is the term everyone uses, but it is not about managing anger, which is a normal emotion, it is about managing abuse or rage, which is where the anger is taken personally or made personal. I achieve an 80% success rate in reducing anger where those clients want to reduce it and about a 20-30% success rate when clients are mandated to come and don't really want to change. About 60% of my clients are mandated, but a high percentage of those do want to change.
I use the cognitive principle therapy technique which focus on changing principles or values, not behavior. That is, most abuse is caused by either lack of trust, where jealousy is involved or lack of respect, where the person gets frustrated with themselves or others. The anger cycle where the other person is not doing what I want is therefore:
-They are not listening to me or doing what I want [lack of respect]
-They are still doing it [frustration from lack of respect]
-I am getting angry [feeling the lack of respect]
-I become abusive [trying to force respect].
If the person then complies with the abusive behavior the abusive person feels they got respect through abuse, which was most likely out of fear, but the abusive habit has been created and is easily triggered in the future.
The method I use to reduce anger in four sesisons is shown at www.cogntiveprinciplematrix.com.au
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