This is a distressing situation for you and i can understand you probably have feelings of concern and possibly guilt. This is made more difficult for you because be is keeping you away, which I'd suspect is possibly to hurt you for you hurting him when you left. Mixed with this is he is probably feeling powerless over his health so things like checking out of the hospital and denying you visits are his way of re-gaining some control in his life at the moment. What can you do?
Obviously you left for good reasons and those are still valid and unlikely to change right now and what's done is done. What you can do is send him some letters or cards, dig out some photos of the good and positive times, focus on the great times and encourage and affirm him in those. How will he respond? that is up to him. He has an opportunity to make peace with those around him and end his days well, or not. He sounds like he can be stubborn so he may fight and resist to the end, that is his choice (and I'm guessing possibly why you left him). Send him a letter/card or two, affirm the good times you've had, say what you need to say, leave the door open to talk, and leave it up to him.
All the best.
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