What was the incident when you were 18 months old? How much more wisdom do you have now compared to when you were 18 months old? If you are a mum and your child had such an incident and they are now 50 have your parents done anything about it? What worked, What didn't?
We all have a fight or flight response for the purpose of keeping ourself safe. So it would make sense that something that is frightening to us puts in a fear to avoid us having to go through the same thing in the future.
These are some of the questions I would be asking you to find out more before discussing with you what might be useful to do in this situation. A therapist can have 20 clients all with the same feelings and yet each person can have a different reason of why they have that fear, and it is that reason that needs to be addressed.
A client comes to mind that suffered with claustrophobia. He had no idea of why that would be. In hypnosis I took him back to the very first time he ever had that feeling. He started saying; "I can't get out... I can't get out..." and I asked him to tell me what he saw. He said that he couldn't get out of the birth canal when being born. Another client as a child was locked in a dark room by some boys as a joke and started panicking. Both incidences caused the same feeling that had never been released.
Our mind works differently in hypnosis which is in the Alpha or even deeper brainwave level, and whilst desensitising you from the event is a valid therapy which can also be done in the mind in hypnosis, however, If you have had this feeling since an 18 month year old, then it would seem that your feeling, is a symptom of a very frightening or deeply distressing or disturbing experience that happened for an 18 month old.
I would suggest that it would possibly not be a frightening event to a 50 year old who has more life experience, especially when you can rationalise that if you have a fear of walking on a log just above the water and you fell in you would come to no harm.
Failing is a fear of not being good enough to not fail. So it could be having got rid of the first issue you have a different way at looking at life. And again, you don't say what you feel you fail at. People who have a fear, often don't have a good memory because their energy is taken up with their fear and they don't concentrate on what they want to remember and so it only goes into short-term memory but doesn't go into our long-term memory. There are ways you can learn to change that, but I suggest you take care of problem No.1 and look at the second issue after you have dealt with that.
Not one therapy works for every person. So don't give up finding your answer.
Another more unconventional therapy may be 'Faster EFT' or 'Psych-K'
Cell biologist, Professor Bruce Lipton recommends hypnosis, EFT and Psych-K as a therapy for change because it gets the client into the same brainwave state where the problem lies, but I have seen many therapies help clients, and the thing that works best is that you work with a therapist that you are able to relate to that has the skills in their therapy to create that change for you. Hopefully you will find your answer soon.
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