I am really sorry to hear about your friend and the way you're feeling at the moment. The loneliness and sadness you feel seem to stem from a number of factors, and it is important to engage in some activities that give you a sense of pleasure and those that give you a sense of achievement. Engaging in these interests will give you the motivation and drive to interact with other people, and to find some like-minded friends. You will also begin to feel that there is some joy in your life, and that you have control over engaging in tasks that alter your mood.
Perhaps consider joining a group that caters to your interests whether it be writing, knitting, sewing, sports etc. There are many advertisements in the local paper that you can browse through, and the Internet is a great source as well.
Going to your local community centre is a great resource in terms of classes and social outings. There are friendship groups usually advertised, but check that the people in the group are within your own age bracket.
Grow Victoria is a great self-help group that assists people experiencing personal conflict, and there would be a Meeting near you. There is a booklet that you're given in the group, and social events are also organised. It's a great way to share common concerns and to have some fun with people who share pain similar to your own.
You could contact your local library and become a part of a book chat group if you have an interest in reading a variety of books. Or if you have an interest in the New Age area, you could consider joining a Meditation class or a Dream group, which are advertised on the Internet or in wellness clinics.
You could be experiencing conflict due to your role transition as a new mother, considering you have a 2-year old. This is quite a challenge, so perhaps you could consider asking your family to babysit while you let your hair down and do something fun.
Perhaps consider keeping a journal that outlines the positives and negatives of being a mother,
as well as the advantages and disadvantages of having no children. It provides you with a balanced view of your life, and allows you to grieve the old way of life if that old life did appeal to you. Also consider keeping a gratitude journal to remind you of all the things in your life that you can be grateful for.
You can go at your own pace, but do remember that there are many supports and events out there that can make a huge difference to your world. Good luck!!
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