Well I feel for many people they may feel overwhelmed a little bit to tell their friends that they suffer from depression etc…..
I sense you may find it difficult to get and tell your friends that you suffer from depression, because you fear that perhaps they may judge you, and then the fear is ‘Will they still want to be my friend’. This may not be the exact case, but this is very common fear amongst many people who avoid telling others.
For many people it is embarrassing to tell people like their friends about their weaknesses, as we may fear their reactions, and with depression, some people feel like a failure. You may not perhaps think or feel this, but most people may perceive this in this way.
I think the best way to tell them, is that if you find it a little bit overwhelming to verbally tell them, then perhaps you may consider the following other ways of letting them know:
1. Send them an email and outline your reasons why you have chosen to communicate online, opposed telling them face to face….
In your email it could read…..'I am sending you this email to inform you that I have recently been diagnosed with depression, and I am finding by sending this email to you as a close friend, it is easier for my to express my feelings openly and honestly as to what is really going on with me at the moment'. etc………….
2. Request a trusted family member to contact your closest friends to advise them that you have depression, and for your family member to tell them the reasons why they are calling them instead of yourself. eg they can tell them, that you are going through a very difficult time and that you just needed some support at the moment in breaking the news to your friends.
3. Or you can send your closest friends a text sms message to their mobile, stating- I just wanted to let you know that recently I am suffering from depression and perhaps we can talk more about it, if you can give me a call when you get a chance.
4.Use Facebook private chat, go online and if they are online, it;s less confronting to tell them via texting online via private chat inbox.
5. Tell them via email, online, etc,,,, when your having a better day than advising them on your worst day, as this task won't be so daunting
6, Change your negative thinking to more positive thinking and think about how much your friends may offer you their support etc…. ie if they are real friends and understanding.
Having friends around during this difficult time may help you.
It is the negative thoughts that are stopping you from being able to tell others about your depression.
Ask yourself this questions ‘ What is the worse thing that can happen, if I tell my friends that I have depression’….. and then challenge that thought, and see is it rational or irrational thought, and change it to a positive thought, as this will then hopefully change your decision making.
7. Send them a letter in mail
It is also good to seek professional help from a counsellor or psychologist if you have not seen one as yet. The therapy sessions will help you to reduce your depression and give you more empowerment and control over your current life situation.
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