It is certainly difficult to make big decisions like this, especially since you seem to have a high commitment to your family and relationship. I've seen a lot of guys in business who are under tremendous amounts of stress and this impacts their personal relationships. Unfortunately many men don't reach out for help or value their family until it is gone. I think it would be helpful for you to talk to a counsellor and be clear in your mind where you stand and what path you will follow. Ultimately your husband needs to make his own decisions and take steps to get himself sorted but I'd suggest you find a counsellor who is good at working with men and couples. Not all counsellors are effective at engaging ‘non-compliant’ men so find one who is and make a time to seem her/him as a couple. Counsellors have different approaches, I always spend 10-15 minutes with each partner separately at the beginning of the first session as this gives me a good insight into where each person is at and helps me engage them, especially the guy. He needs to commit to you and your kids and to getting himself and his business sorted. You can support and help him but he needs to make some decisions first. I know there can be many complications with a poor performing business but I also know the longer it drags on the worse it gets so decisions need to be made.
Make a few phone calls and find a counsellor you think will connect with your husband, book a time and do your best to get him along. If he doesn't make the appointment or goes and just opps out then that gives you a good idea where he is at and you can make some decisions from there.
I wish you the best, give me a call if you want to have a chat.
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