You should give yourself credit for seeking to resolve this situation which has the potential to severely crush your sexual confidence and enjoyment.
Firstly, the problem is not with you.
Secondly, your boyfriend is not a bad person and does not intentionlly mean to hurt your but he has a sexual difficulty which he should address if he wants to be a good partner in any relationship.
Without a full sexual history from your boyfriend I am just going to propose a few ideas as to the difficulty: he has a high threshhold for orgasm and has a specific pattern he has learnt to allow himself to orgasm, he has intimacy fears with a partner and needs very high/specific arousal to allow himself to orgasm, he has become numbed to interpersonal sensuality and finds it hard to become aroused without the visual variety he has habituated to through pornography etc
If you love him for all his other qualities and want to stay in this relationship change your focus from pleasing him to allowing him to please you. Really enjoy yourself and show him what a great lover he is for you. Make lovemaking a feast. Focus on him enjoying himself rather than having an orgasm as a task to be achieved.
However, if he wants to change the situation then support him seeing a sex therapist.
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