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    i know im suffering depression. pride wont let me talk about it

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    after work i have a coffee at a cafe by myself and that is the only personal social event i have in my life. i want to seek help and have gone to the doctors with the intention of raising this, but just cant say it. i have suffered with it as long as i can remember. my mother was highly depressed and attempted suicide several times. i have not ever wanted to do that though. after my marriage break up 15 years ago, i ended up with epelepsy as i simply fell to pieces. i cry over silly things, sad and happy things. in my younger days i just packed my bags and moved to another city to sort myself out. i have 2 children and a grandchild and just cant do that. i want to face up to my issues. i want a life of reasonable happiness. i have tattoos and a bit of a rough look . its so hard to admit weakness. offer
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    Jenny Z

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    Depression is not a weakness it is a curable illness that absolutely needs medical attention. I had exactly the same thought and in the end i sort medical help or go crazy. I didn't want anyone to know not even my partner but once I sort help and I'm still a long way from climbing out of my deep dark well (I call it) I eventually told my partner and then my children and some friends. I am not ashamed of my depression anymore.  I also have a to do list. I have only been able to acheive 10% on that list and the items are not big acheivements by no means. Simple things like having a shower each day, getting up 1hr before I need to leave for work and not 15min & rushing, not drinking each night to drown my misery. Yes it is the biggest uphill climb out of that deep deep dark well, but with the medical and professional help I am now receiving I know there will be better days. Utube comedy at night when you are alone, your favourite old music clips when days were happier. I read books about women who have been to hell & back not happy reading but certainly inspirational. Exercise is one of the best things your can do and lots of fresh vegies & unproccessed foods & of course good quality chocolate. Good luck, you will make it. 

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    Thank you for your support and words of advise. (I really liked the chocolate idea). a deep dark well is a very good description for where i have fallen mentally as well.  It's nice to hear from others that have suffered alone. i just felt no one would understand how i felt or would judge and label me and call me a sook. i  put on a  brave face at work and about, but have felt very very alone even in a room full of people. i see the shame in my son's face when his friends are around home, and the always see me sitting in the lounge room in the same spot. I have made the first step by admitting my problem, the second was using this great web site and sharing it with some one else. i do feel a bit stronger from doing that, so i will use this strength to see a doctor monday and not put it off any more. i must, i will ! your words really have given me inspiration to move ahead and start enjoying life. i do not expect it to be a simple or easy journey, but i now have the support i have longed for and can share my feelings with confidence. i really hope things will get easier for you  as your list gets shorter im sure it will. u tube comedy is a great idea as i have been finding it hard to smile, let alone laugh. thank you thank you thank you.   

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    Hi, Sorry to hear of your struggle. You are definitely not alone. I too went through the same thing with pride, but realised I was scared. There's no weakness in being depressed. It's a very hard thing to go through & takes a really tough person to get through it. It takes real character to admit something like that to yourself & to seek help. If you end up seeking help & get a bad response, don't be discouraged. You don't need people like that. Seek out people & professionals that understand & will help. Depression is now very common & there is no shame in it. You didn't ask to have it & it's not your fault. Talking to your Dr. about it will be hard but do it in small steps if you can't handle it. I hope it will be a relief to get it off your chest. Keep fighting, you are not alone & deserve to be happy.
    Good luck :)

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