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  • Q&A with Australian Health Practitioners

    How do I stop getting down on myself?

    I've never really liked myself, and consequently very hard on myself. I recently have felt like my life has been going nowhere and it contributed to a break up with my partner of six years recently. It is not a consistent thing, but happens on and off. Should I be going to see someone locally about how I view myself?
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  • Savita Ghanshyam


    You have already taken the first step towards a solution by accepting that you never liked yourself and are hard on yourself.  You are on your way towards solving the problem.  Talking to a professional will help you in this situation but you can also reflect on the thoughts that occur prior to these feelings.  Internalised hurtful or offensive incidents caused by a significant other can cause such feelings of self-hate.  These feelings need to be erased and your self-confidence and morale rebuilt.  I hope that helps.

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    Bruce Jenkins

    Psychologist, Psychotherapist

    ABOUT BRUCE Registered psychologist since 1991 Broadly Humanistic approach with special interest in Person Centred therapy Over sixteen years experience as a supervisor Taught Counselling … View Profile

    Most of us have internal conversations sometimes. Nothing strange about that. But when those inner dialogues are negative or self-defeating, it can really have an impact on confidence, relationships with others, and hence quality of life.

    As a humanistic therapist (psychologist) I have found that exploring thoughts and feelings in a safe, non-judgemental environment can be a great beginning to feeling better about yourself and better in the world generally. We cannot simply eradicate thoughts or feelings, but we can process them so that they affect us less. And that often has a postive flow-on into our lives.

    Best wishes for your journey.

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