This is a tough one. No one can make another person seek help if they are not willing. We can, however, potentially influence people we care about. Listening can be a great start, and perhaps if your friend knows that you listened without judging him or jumping in straight away to give advice he may just seek help in his own time. You could also consider expressing your concern - or even just pointing out what you have noticed. For example, “Hey John, I've noticed you seem pretty down lately (or have been tired a lot, or not your normal self). I'm worried about you. Have you thought about talking to your doctor or some other health professional about it”.
If you have tried encouraging a friend and they are very definite that they won't seek help you could try other approaches such as inviting them out for a walk or to see a movie. Exercise and getting out and about are important strategies to deal with depression.
If you are really concerned about a friend, for instance if they have told you that they are thinking about hurting him / herself in some way then you need to think about being more insistent about them seeking help and perhaps calling someone else or taking them to the doctor (or if really urgent to an emergency department).
Some people who won't see their doctor or a psychologist may consider calling a service such as Lifeline, Kidshelpline or Beyondblue.
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