There is no standard answer and nobody can really answer this for you.
Some people will accept what you tell them without any qualms because ultimately it is about you and not them, and they will understand that you are still the same person they liked and respected. Some people may respond with a mixture of surprise and withdrawal or anger. here it is very important that you hold onto yourself and not take their belirfs and feelings as being true for you. Sometimes the people you think will be most supportive won't be and those that tyou think will not be supportive, will surprise you and be amazing. So it is hard to tell how people will react and so it has to be a really personal decision about when you feel ready to tell people about something as personal as your sexual orientation. Remember, they are not entitled to this information, it is for your sense of self and your decision.
Some people wait to come out publically when they have a partner while others want to know who will be a friend knowing who they are. It is also important to understand that you never just come out once, it often needs to be repeated. You will be ‘out’ but every time you meet someone new you will have to ask the question again, “do I tell them?” and “how?”
So it is not as simple as when is the right time to tell people as you are constantly telling people. For some people that gets easier and they get more at ease with it and for others it becomes a reason not to meet new people. So in short there is no short answer. It is about when it feels right for you, when you feel you have something to say to someone and when you feel ‘safe’ in telling them.
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