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    My wife and I recently had a stillborn, what can I do to support her?

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  • Kaitlin Edin


    Kaitlin Edin has been in practice since 2009 and has worked in a variety of clinical situations including group and private practice; as well as … View Profile

    In the event of losing a child, our world stops and pain takes over, it quite literally takes our breath away.

    The yogis say Breath is Life. Of course this is a truism, but taking in oxygen is not breathing and when we have suffered a shock and a loss of this kind this is all we do, we take in oxygen and forget to breathe.

    And so it follows that if breath is life then breathing is living, and this ‘living’ gets put on hold as the pain of our grief is being processed.  Each of us do this processing differently, and many of us need others to help us. 
    But your question starts with 'my wife and i' and ends with ‘what can i do to support her?’
    To your wife you need to ask this question, she alone knows how you can best support her.
    And to yourself you need to ask ‘what do i need to support myself’.
    I hope for you both that the answer to that question is - each other.

    Every event in our lives has the potential to make us see in a new way, this is both the threat and the liberation implicit in change, so ‘May the long time sun shine upon you, all love surround you and the pure light within you guide your way on’ (A Traditional Irish blessing)

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