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  • Q&A with Australian Health Practitioners

    How do I get over anxiety from imagining a guy was interested in me?

    I have times when I get nervous, anxious, can't cope with people staring me & I think they're talking about me, get really stressed over nothing. I've been abused a few times, but think my issues now come from thinking that a guy I thought was the right one for me was actually interested in me, then indications show that it was all in my imagination. I am trying to move on & ignore it, but sometimes we see each other a few times a week & it's a battle to ignore it & try & forget he's there. And it seems to be after I've seen him that I can't get it out of my mind & can't concentrate properly, more so than when he's there - I'm trying to get over it & move on; I can't look at people because they know I'm a bit funny about something. I have trouble with having the right words to say - this worries me when dealing with customers etc. I fear to go places..... It's been over 2 years.... Will these anxiety issues go away over time if I can forget the guy, or is it likely I have anxiety condition?
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  • Anthony Berrick

    Psychologist

    Sorry to hear you're struggling. It sounds like you're stuck in a bit of a vicious cycle here.

    You say you're trying to "ignore it", "forget the guy", "get it out of my mind", "move on" and "get over it". But how well is this strategy working for you? You've been trying your best to do this for over 2 years, but it doesn't sound like trying to push your thoughts and feelings away is working at all. In fact I suspect it could be making it worse.

    What if there's a better way of dealing with your thoughts and feelings that allows you to make room for them, so they don't dominate your experience, and live more fully in the present?

    If you're not sure how to do this on your own, then I'd really recommend you get some advice from a psychologist. 2 years of struggling on your own is more than enough!

  • Anthony Berrick

    Psychologist

    Sorry to hear you're struggling. It sounds like you're stuck in a bit of a vicious cycle here.

    You say you're trying to "ignore it", "forget the guy", "get it out of my mind", "move on" and "get over it". But how well is this strategy working for you? You've been trying your best to do this for over 2 years, but it doesn't sound like trying to push your thoughts and feelings away is working at all. In fact I suspect it could be making it worse.

    What if there's a better way of dealing with your thoughts and feelings that allows you to make room for them, so they don't dominate your experience, and live more fully in the present?

    If you're not sure how to do this on your own, then I'd really recommend you get some advice from a psychologist. 2 years of struggling on your own is more than enough!

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