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  • Q&A with Australian Health Practitioners

    How can I control my emotions?

    I am an 18 year old female who has struggled to control my emotions, I am quite sensitive about most things. When in confrontational situations, arguments or when I am angry or stressed, my emotions come out through crying.

    I don't mean to cry however this is the way I show my feelings, it happens so often that my family has addressed the issue with me.

    I was wondering if this is something that can be discussed with a professional to develop tactics or is this a common issue?
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  • George Swan


    George Swan Clinical Hypnotherapist is a real-life example of how hypnotherapy can help bring about extraordinary life change. His first experience with hypnosis and hypnotherapy … View Profile

    Yes, most people are familiar getting so emotional we just lose control from time to time. However if you find yourself angry frequently, doing or saying something you later regretted and found it hard to think straight at times, as if the emotion had taken you over then you might want to do something about it and develop new patterns to controlling your anger and other emotions.

    The fact that you’ve taken the time to write this question means that you’re aware you need to make a real change in how you deal with emotional situations.

    Emotions can be very prevailing, and of course they can also be very helpful to us. They add diversity to your life, they let you know impulsively how you feel about something, and they can occasionally be an assets to remind you what you need to attend to in your life. Emotions like deep love and joy have motivated great writers and artists to yield their finest works for thousands of years.

    Appreciated as emotions are, however, it’s undeniably important that you develop your capability to control them and keep them at a healthy level. When we respond very passionately to something, our instinctive brain starts to overtake the ‘thinking part’ of our brain, and we begin to react purely on instinct. And, in situations where unconscious behaviour may not be suitable, this can tip us to do very foolish things or cry to release the emotional tension.

    Yes, this is something that can be discussed with a Clinical Hypnotherapist who can help you to develop tactics (habits) to get better and better control over your emotions, you’ll not only be able to be more calm in life, but you’ll be measurably healthier, happier and able to think clearly when confrontational situation arise or when you are stressed.

  • I am a Melbourne Relationship Counsellor and Family Lawyer who is skilful in helping people get out of the pain of relationship distress and create … View Profile

    Many women fear being “too” emotional just as many men fear being angry. In fact it's not gender specific at all but you are not alone with this experience. Counselling can help you regulate and understand your emotional state. The fact that your family has mentioned it to you could be just the prompt you need to go and see someone. Being sensitive is a gift and it just takes some patience and self-knowledge and awareness so that you can use your senstivity as a strength. All the best.

  • I have been working in Eltham, Melbourne as a relationship and family counsellor for over twelve years. I draw on current theory and research about … View Profile

    I wonder what it is you are crying in response to? And what emotions you are expressing through your tears? Tears do not necessarily reflect sadness - they can be an expression of frustration, anger, a sense of powerlessness in response to being treated poorly by someone else - to name a few. Certainly counselling may be helpful to assist you not just to control your tears, but to understand what they are telling you about a situation, and to equip you with tools to handle those situations more effectively. For example - if you become teary because you are frustrated with someone else's behaviour towards you, you may benefit from learning how to assertively communicate this to the person concerned.

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