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    Depressed as living with parents & unemployed. How do I get out of this rutt?

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    I lost my job and have to live with my parents where you have to wind your clocks back 50 years. it is costing me a lot of money to do courses and drive in and out of either Gladstone or Rockhampton.
    I find myself shut in my room and have started drinking way too much as I find it the only way to cope with the parents also I am finding it difficult to go walking as for snakes and the road is very narrow and cars just dont slow down. I am putting on so much weight.
    Can anyone give me some ideas of how to get myself out of this rutt and depression?
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    Karen Amos

    Counsellor, Personal Trainer

    Walk and Talk is just what you need to begin living a life that you love. I'm Karen Amos and at Walk and Talk Australia … View Profile

    That is a great answer from Nigel and he has covered alot of ground in his response.  Something that I would like to acknowledge you for is simply your desire to create a shift in your life.  

    Often times when we feel like we can't move, we actually can, but have no real motivation for change.  It sounds as though you know you want things to be different, and know how you want things to be different now, but what is it that you want for your own future?  Nigel's goal focussed approach is also something I share.  Take a look down the track and imagine what you would like to see and who you would like to become in the next year and bring it back to now, step by step bridging the gap between the two.  

    I read recently that “every choice I make is a step in creating who I am and want to become”.  I have applied this to eating, regular and varied exercise and like you, learning.  I even thought that as I ate a piece of caramel slice!  And was able to agree - Yes, this is not contributing to my greater health, but it's my choice.  

    Shift can happen when you begin to choose differently, for the purpose of change.  A rut often feels like “Groundhog Day” and shift may come when you realise the opportunity that this time with your parents, has given you - like the time to realise what you don't want.

    Kindly - Karen


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    Bruce Jenkins

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    ABOUT BRUCE Registered psychologist since 1991 Broadly Humanistic approach with special interest in Person Centred therapy Over sixteen years experience as a supervisor Taught Counselling … View Profile

    Your situation is difficult and the isolation seems intense.
    Posting on this site was a brave move and a really significant step in finding some support.

    Perhaps seeking out a psychologist or counsellor would be helpful. Often just speaking about the problem helps lighten the burden. 

    If you contact a therapist of some description, look for one who is registered and experienced. Talk to them on the phone briefly and notice how you respond. Do you think you could trust this person? Did they seem to hear you clearly?

    Good wishes on your journey.

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