What you've described certainly doesn't sound anywhere near the severity of what is normally classified as OCD.
We all want our kids not to get upset, but even if we could give our kids as pain-free a childhood as humanly possible, adult life often contains very painful emotions, which we all need to learn how to cope with.
So, as unpleasant as it is, each time your daughter gets upset actually presents an opportunity for her to learn something about her emotions, and her relationship with you, by the way that you respond to her.
If her demands are excessive or unreasonable, then certainly don't 'give in' just to calm her down, as that only teaches her that her emotions are in charge, and there is no way to make room for discomfort.
Instead, compassionately empathise with her distress (even if the lego thing is 'silly', her emotions are not silly) but gently and assertively say 'no'. As long as she is upset, continue to offer emotional comfort to help her deal with her emotions. Once her emotions have subsided, you could talk about the 'issue' (e.g. the lego) if you feel that she doesn't understand why you said 'no'. But try to avoid getting into a logical argument about why the lego can be all mixed in together while she's still emotional.
Over time, she will learn that her emotions are valid but that they don't have to control her choices, she can rely on you for loving emotional support, and when her mum says "no", she doesn't back down. That would be pretty cool, right?
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