Alysha and Mariane are on the money. You don't get better at socialising or public speaking by avoiding those activities.
CBT will help with the challenges you mentioned. Where Alysha says “This approach also helps you gradually face feared situations in order to learn that anxiety is a false-alarm ”, that is referring to what is called in the trade exposure therapy - i.e. exposing yourself to the feared situation in gradually increasing ‘doses’ so that your nervous system can learn that despite the presence of fear symptoms you actually are safe.
It's all very well to tell yourself this, but your nervous system learns through experience, not through thoughts and words. I'm sure you know what i mean if you've told yourself “This is ridiculous! I know everybody isn't interested in me, so why do I feel like they're all judging me?”
Here's a couple of resources that may help you get a taste of this learning before or while you're seeing a therapist:
6 ACT Conversations: Session 3 - this is a website/podcast series I developed with the RMIT Counselling Service to help people learn the skills of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. This session focuses on learning willingness to experience ‘difficult’ emotions.
Another potentially helpful resource is a new app I came across just today called Anxiety Mint (only available on iPhone). This leads you through a course of Cognitive Bias Modification and is based on the observation that many people with Social Phobia are overly sensitive to others' facial expressions that are perceived as cold or disapproving. Can't promise it will solve your problem, but for $2.50 it may be a good place to start.
Just remember, there are many wonderful people out there who would love to know you if they could - your mission, should you choose to accept it is to find them. And when you don't find them, just say, “Next!”
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